Thursday, 30 January 2014

11 wrong reasons to get married....

1. IMMIGRATION PURPOSE
Some people got married to their spouse simply because of the benefit of getting a stay permit in another country. It happens the world over. Many men are getting killed by these foreign women on knowing that these cunning men had another woman in their home country.

2. FANTASY ABOUT WEDDING RING
If you badly need a ring to wear then getting married is not the only means of having one; simply go to the store and buy one and wear. Laughs

3. HATRED FOR HOUSE CHORES
You can't run away from house chores forever and ever especially as a woman, if you want to leave your parent's house because you are tired of doing house chores then getting married is not the solution. More house chores await you there.

4. JUST LIKING THE IDEA OF MARRIAGE. Getting married simply because you just LIKE THE IDEA is like joining the Armed forces for the love of the uniform, don't forget you will go to the warfront. Marriage is full of beautiful moments and accompanied by many challenges.

5. INFATUATION/LUST

6. BEAUTY/ HANDSOMENESS
Getting married to someone because of physical beauty is like buying a house because of it's paint. Anything can happen. Beauty is vain. Wrinkles will visit that beautiful face someday, those straight legs might bend with time. Look within...there in lies the real person

7. FEAR OF REJECTION. From experience I have seen some ladies who agreed to marry an abusive partner because of fear of not meeting any other man.

8. RUNNING OUT OF TIME AND GETTING OLDER. Do not settle down with just any next available man/woman because you are getting older day by day. Wait for your time. The waiting will soon be over.

9.NEED SOMEONE BADLY TO COMPLETE YOU

10. BECAUSE OF UNWANTED PREGNANCY
Nowadays, most youths are forced to marry whoever impregnate them but with time troubles do set in and such marriages do not last.

11.Continues....... your point please

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COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE

1. Only consider courtship at a time in your life when you are ready to consider marriage. Until that time–foster the virtue of friendship and hold off the romance until you are really ready for it.

2. Only enter into a courtship with a man/woman whom you would consider marrying. A woman might consider “just” dating any guy that she’s attracted to as long as she has no sense of long-term commitment. The problem arises when she’s grown attached to him after a period of time and can’t bring herself to breaking off the relationship, even when it’s not good. She may end up marrying a man that she otherwise would not have. Set the stakes higher–only court with a man/woman you’d consider marrying.

3. Enter a courtship after you have discerned that you are called to marriage with a certain man/woman. Courtship is a relationship with a purpose. If you know that you would not consider marriage with this man/woman, or you are not ready to consider marriage yet, then don’t enter into a courtship. Stay friends or acquaintances for the time being. Courtship is about prayerful discernment, which means you will decide either that God is not calling you to marriage with this man or that He is not. Both outcomes are valid in a courtship!

4. Take time through prayer to discern God’s will. You need to foster prayer in your lives individually and as a couple. You can not know God’s will without prayer and His word.

5. Base your courtship in the family: As much as possible, spend time with each other’s families. This is so important–for if you do end up married, you’ll want to get along. Family is an invaluable resource and such an integral part of who we are.
You will learn much about each other by seeing how each other relates to family members. And your family, in turn, can give you much insight about the man with whom you are courting (and his family, about you!) Family sees things we don’t always see. Love can be blind at times–family (and friends) can really help to correct our vision. If you are far from family, make every effort to get home and spend time with them. And in the meantime, adopt a family (friends from Church, for example) to provide for you all the benefits of a family-based courtship.

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THE END POINT

There was a day I noticed a wet line across the foot path. I wondered what little creature left this impact? Getting close, I discovered it was a snail that passed by and created the print. But i noticed the line stopped a little distance to the bush and this made me look further. Alas! The snail had been stepped upon by either a motorcycle, a car or human being unconsciously. 

Due to the nature of the snail, the slowness of its movement: I imagined all it could have taken the snail to reach that point, all the crawling and stretching. Hmm the snail couldn't get to its destination, It could not get to its abode, It could not get to a safe haven despite how hard it tried.

I wondered the amount of time it had spent to get to that point. I pray for you as I have prayed for myself when I had this revelation: you shall not die on your way to glory in the name of Jesus. You shall not be wasted. Your glory shall not be trampled upon.

Today is the 13th day of the month of January, you shall not die before your time in the name of Jesus. You have been trying all these years, even since the first day of the year, I pray for you: your efforts will not be in vain. All your struggles will not be wasted, you will reach your goals and fulfill destiny. God Almighty will crown your efforts with success. The Lord will keep you even beyond 2014 in the name of Jesus.Amen!!

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Whom do you fear that you lie and sin against the Holy Spirit?

Sometimes we found ourselves in a tight situation and we bribe our way out by telling lies. Firstly, it could be to cover our shame e.g Mr & Mrs. Ananias & Sapphira, some ladies who have lost their virginity while in secondary school can tell their husband-to-be that they are virgins. 
Secondly, to save ourselves from an assumed outcomes e.g Mr. Abraham who thought he would be killed and lose his wife,
Thirdly, to retain our respect and dignity with people around us. What dignity can lies buy us? We forget that even if the person we are lying to doesn't know the truth: we know. In some cases they might know and just keep mute and watch us make a fool of ourselves.

Most times we lie because we don't want to hurt someone we love forgetting we are hurting someone who loves us and resides within us, yes the Holy Spirit.

Who do I fear above God that I lie?
Whom do you fear above God that you lie?

Let's make an effort to build the truth in us.
So, everybody around you is getting engaged! 

Every day you log onto facebook you find that YET another person is engaged! Although you're happy for them, deep down-- you're thinking umm.. ANOTHER PERSON?! UGH! WHEN IS MY TIME?!??! 

You go to church, pray, spend time with God, you're living right but HOW is it that all of your unsaved co-workers are now engaged.. or all your friends are engaged, married.. having kids but you find yourself.. still single.

I just want to encourage you today sis. I have felt how you've felt and I have been where you've been. First and foremost, you have got to stop comparing your life to another person. You've heard this before but I'm going to remind you that you're a Christian.

You have the Holy Spirit living on the inside of you. Do you know what that means to all of heaven??! You've been adopted, set apart, pulled aside, HIDDEN and PROTECTED under the care of CHRIST. Do you think He's going to just let you run off any marry some of anybody??! Anybody can get a ring honey. You can walk outside and pick a random up off the street and make him marry you. Proverbs 24:1 says: Be not envious of evil men, nor desire to be with them. So.. that should clear up being jealous of a bunch of random unsaved people that are getting engaged. They don't belong to Christ which means that CHRIST has no say-so in their relationships!

The WORST feeling in the world is for you to walk down the aisle to a man that you KNOW God didn't tell you to marry! Yes, God is always speaking. He's always with you. Are you listening? And this isn't the time to run and preach to them that they shouldn't be getting married if they aren't saved. Bashing them over the head with the bible once engaged won't make them run to Christ. Just smile, hug them and say congratulations while you pray for their salvation.

Each season in your life will develop to the next one. If you're worrying non-stop about getting married, you'll finally get married and then you'll worry about kids. "Everybody is having kids and you don't have any kids." Then, you'll finally get pregnant and then you'll compare yourself to all of the other pregnant women and worry about your entire pregnancy. Then, kids will finally come and then you will compare your kids to everybody else's child. Do you see how destructive this cycle is??! And remember, we're Christians. Jesus is so clear to us when He tells us..

Philippians 4:6-7
6 Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.
7 If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

So.. are you allowing His peace to guard your mind during this season of your life? Or are you on a mad search to "finds you a man?" I want to encourage you to get off of your dating sites as you "SEEK" a spouse and get on your face before God & "SEEK" Him. Don't let being single make you bitter sis. GET UP!

You shouldn't be in that waiting room waiting for him! Single life is NOT a waiting room for MARRIAGE. Marriage is ministry and if you were lazy with your walk with God while single when you get married, you'll get smacked in the face by the EFFORT that it takes to make a marriage GOOD & last.

Heather Lindsey.
MOVIE, SEX AND VIRTUE.

Wow! This is interesting and amazing!

Let me share the movie with you.

I watched a foreign movie though the concept of the producer/movie writer might not be the same as the rhema I got through it... The story is about a guy who has supernatural skill or ability to fly and do the unimaginable. He went about rescuing people from danger and all that.

One day he saved a man from an accident and as kindness begets kindness, the man in return showed him favour by connecting him with the government so he assisted the police force in fighting the terrorists.

After an outstanding success in apprehending a notorious criminal he became the hero of his country.

While celebrating his achievement, he was LURED BY his helper's WIFE...he fell in LUST with her...while FORNICATING with her something happened...

The woman became strong and stronger...and away she FLEW OFF. LOL.

In amazement, the fornicating hero flew after her but it was never like before, all his strength WAS TRANSFERRED to the woman(costly exchange)

The woman destroyed his monopoly and started FLYING BUSINESS. Hmmm

She became a threat to him. He was totally helpless.

Not minding his low strength he went to rescue a man under a robbery attack, he tried in his own way but with so much injury.

News got to his numerous opponents whom he had beaten black and blue before...they all gathered around him and had their pound of flesh from him.

He became a prey for his enemies...he was made a trash, crawled and bent before them as they punched him everywhere. *pity*

Can you see what I saw?

*There is a transference of power or virtue from God's anointed(CHILDREN) when we engage in fornication/ adultery.
*Purity is power, a strong edge against the enemies/devil's attack.
*We have a lot to lose when we allow our flesh to control us.

PONDER ON THIS.

We shall finish strong in Jesus name.
11 RIGHT REASONS TO GET MARRIED

1. The need for commitment. If you are in genuinely in love with someone marriage is the highest commitment you can make with the one you love to prove your love for them.

2. A desire to share your life with someone and the need to be watched by someone and to have someone else watch over you.

3.To have a lifetime companion/ a soul mate whom you can call your own and grow old together physically, spiritually and emotionally.

4.Need a help meet that is suitable for you to fulfill your God-given purpose

5. Need a praying partner who shares in your pains.

6. Wanting to be a blessing in fulfilling someone's purpose

7. Wants to share in someone's world and For mutual support

8.Wants to have and raise godly children( Procreation)

9. Comfort together; you need someone who can ease your burden to give you a better outlook towards life during difficult moments of life.

10. You make each other feel special then the desire to have the person all to yourself


11. Other-send in your own own reason for people to get married...
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Sandy Gregory's story of the ignorant but loving mother.

She feeds her children an all meat diet, because she believes meat is the best kind of food. One day she gains some important knowledge after reading a nutrition guide, and she starts buying a mixture of food types for her children. As a result her children become healthier. .

Question: Did this mother love her children more before or after she gained the knowledge? Hmmm.... The same!

But until the knowledge, her love was fruitless, even counterproductive. Knowledge that is true allows love to blossom into good fruit.

Prov 24:3-4 (NIV) By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.

Love can be a waste when we don't apply wisdom.
THE aphorism, "As a man thinketh in his heart so is he," not only embraces the whole of a man's being, but is so comprehensive as to reach out to every condition and circumstance of his life. A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts.

As the plant springs from, and could not be without, the seed, so every act of a man springs from the hidden seeds of thought, and could not have appeared without them. This applies equally to those acts called "spontaneous" and "unpremeditated" as to those, which are deliberately executed.

Act is the blossom of thought, and joy and suffering are its fruits; thus does a man garner in the sweet and bitter fruitage of his own husbandry. --James Allen
IT IS YOUR TREASURE

With all SINCERITY
Young girls/ladies/men, you truly look PRETTY/CUTE
But i...have to warn you not to loose your VIRGINITY.
Don't allow what you see in your VICINITY
To break your wall of SECURITY..

Your VIRGINITY is your DIGNITY,
Protect it and make it your number One PRIORITY.
Don't allow error of PROXIMITY
to lead you into SEXUAL IMMORALITY.

Some of your friends call you
MINORITY
Because you don't follow their PARTY OF MAJORITY,
They show off their body as PUBLICITY for money/pleasure.
And also committing ATROCITY..
Now you are feeling PITY
for yourself and a sense of INSECURITY,
And thinking of embracing their INSANITY.
But listen to me dear,Don't listen to them Because all is VANITY upon VANITY

My Sweety
With GOD the ruler of ETERNITY
you have a true IDENTITY
And you are covered by divine IMMUNITY.
Leave them to PARTY in their IRASCIBILITY
Because in REALITY
The end is CALAMITY.
They will also become HIV CASUALTY if they repented not.

If you have lost your VIRGINITY
already,Don't worry,return to Jesus today
GOD can still give you a new IDENTITY.

HIS DIVINITY will help your HUMILITY
But you have to stop all SEXUAL IMMORALITY
So that you can get access into the beautiful CITY
prepared by the Almighty.....
.Please don't Loose your INTEGRITY And Bring Shame To The GOD Of INFINITY.

STAND FOR SEXUAL PURITY
YOU ARE NOT STANDING ALONE.
THOUSANDS OF VIRGINS ARE OUT THERE.
"If you don't believe it is simply because you are not one of them".

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KEEP YOUR HEART

"Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life." (Proverbs 4:23)

You must have heard about a gatekeeper-someone who guards the entrance into or exit from a premises. You also know about a housekeeper-someone paid to look after the management of a household. How about a bookkeeper? He is someone who records the transactions of a business. But have you heard of a heart-keeper? That is a special, solemn task that God has assigned to you as a Christian youth.

As a heart-keeper, you must control what goes in and out of your heart. Like Job, you must keep watch over your eye-gate and also be a housekeeper. You must manage the affairs of your life with carefulness. You need to be a record-keeper too. You must keep an account of your affairs from day-to-day.

By allowing immoral thoughts, Amnon lured Tamar, his half-sister, into incest. How is your heart today? As a youth, the thoughts and actions you engage in could either make or mar your future. So, you need to watch, pray, and trust God, and you will overcome all evil thoughts in Jesus` name.

Challenge: It is your duty to keep your heart.

Prayer: Purer in heart O Christ, let me be.

Further Reading: Mark 7: 18-23
WATCH AND PRAY: THE KEYS TO OVERCOMING TEMPTATIONS

TEXT: MATTHEW 26:41

We are looking at the instruction of Jesus that we should WATCH AND PRAY in the light of living a victorious christian life.

When God focuses on a man (generic use), he also attracts the attention of the devil. The more the focus from God, the more attention from the devil because he is out to frustrate the purpose of God. He knows that if a man successfully fulfills God’s purpose for his life, he would not only lose that man but many as well.

Multiplication is the desire of God, he wants our fruit to be abundant. When the new testament church started,the testimony was that the Lord added to the church, later it became ‘and the disciples multiplied’. They became uncountable.

This is why any christian that doesn't witness is ultimately helping the purpose of the devil…which is to prevent more people from making it to God.

This should challenge us as citizens of heaven to get up and arise to fulfill God’s agenda of bringing all men to a new relationship with God.

There are two forces in operation in the spirit realm, the God’s side and the devil’s side. The highest is the God’s side hence the devil run for covers when God appears on the scene. He runs for covers but he won’t run away.

When he sees a man that is attracting the attention of heaven, he plans to strike him down and he will not relent till it is done but our prayer is that we will not fall but root out the activities of the devil in people’s lives.

We must however note the key that Jesus gave for overcoming the traps of the devil, in Matthew 26:41 which is our focus text, Jesus said ” Watch and Pray that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit is willing indeed, but the flesh is weak”.
The two keys are the most important keys in overcoming the traps of the enemy.

However before we look at the keys, we must also note the other part of the verse that says “…the spirit indeed is willing but the flesh is weak.”

This tells us that no amount of physical or religious activity can help man overcome the antics of the devil. Many atimes we have made commitments, pledges and even gone to the extreme of placing oneself under a curse just to make sure one overcomes a bad habit or sin but then we always find ourselves going back into those things. We then feel so bad afterwards…indeed the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.

But there is a way to live a perpetual victorious life.

Let us look at the keys that Jesus gave for victory individually first and then together later.

A. Watch: What are we to watch?
1. Ourselves. Paul speaking in 1 Corinthians 10:12 said “..let him that thinketh he stand TAKE HEED lest he fall”
We are responsible to ensure that we flee from all appearances of evil. God won’t do it for us. Don’t ever think you have arrived, many that burnt brighter than you that felt devil couldn't touch them have been slaughtered on the altar of trivial habits.

2. Our scars: What do I mean by scars? those things Christ saved us from like sexual sins, anger, lies, drunkenness etc. Even though we have been forgiven, we should be careful not to feed the weakness or the habit. Anything that will sow and nurture the seed in our heart we should deal with it immediately they appear again don't indulge it and say you are stronger now that you are in Christ.

The furious anger in Moses prevented him from the promise land, Saul loved people’s acceptance, Samson loved women(he destroyed a whole plantation because of a woman), Peter feared faces, etc Deal with it every time!

3. The enemy: Most times when we are making spiritual progress the enemy subtly bring things that tend to create imbalance in our life, to get an avenue to lure us back into what we had overcome. We should recognize the devil behind those things and rebuke him.

When the devil tempted Jesus, he wanted Him to abuse the power he had but Jesus resisted him with the word of God but later he came back this time through an innocent act of Peter. He rebuked satan with the same words he used in the wilderness when he was tempted “Get behind me Satan”.

Many times there is a hand of the enemy in a situation that is threatening to slow you down or divert your attention from the purpose of God. You must watch to spiritually discern that it isn’t just a simple matter but the devil in action.Rebuke the devil and he will flee.

B. Pray: Prayer is your access to divine help. Prayer envelopes you in grace, when you pray you will easily defeat any temptation of the enemy. I am not talking of morning or occasional prayer, i am talking of living and breathing prayers. 24/7 your spirit is connected to God in continual communion.

When you make prayer your lifestyle, you will easily walk in holiness because the holy spirit will correct you immediately when you want to put your hand in sin. Pray without ceasing Paul advised…immerse yourself in ceaseless prayers.
Even when you are not saying it aloud, your spirit is praying and you can feel it physically( well that is my experience when I am in tune with God in this manner.) Oh for this grace!

Also when you find your mind wandering to those things that is drawing you into sin, know that the enemy is nearby declare a fast immediately. Take the offensive against the devil and the flesh.

Let your focus in prayer be on spiritual growth and not overcoming the temptation: hunger for more of God,crave the fresh outpouring of the power of the Holy Ghost upon you, bind every spirit luring you back into sin, intercede for lost souls and go out there witness to people about Christ. Cry every time “THAT I MAY KNOW YOU MORE LORD”

Travail in prayers until you are fully reconnected back to God. Let the fire burn on your altar every second.

If you desire a close walk with God this is the key. Next we will talk about following closely.

Will you open your mouth now and let heaven hear your voice!

O lord let me know you more.
Use Exodus 33:12-18 for your prayers
I AM YOUR SPOUSE, STOP CALLING ME BAD NAMES.

Emmanuel: I will not do it! he replied angrily
Motunrayo: You must do it dear, I am cork sure you can't deny this is the right thing to do" she became angry too
Emmanuel: And what if I decide against your wish" He snapped back
increasing the tempo of her voice now
"Hmmm don't try me ooo" Motunrayo warned her husband
''I keep wondering what is so difficult in saying sorry to me"
Emmanuel: Exactly my point! why are you insisting that I must say sorry, I am refusing simply because of the pressure you are putting on me.
Motunrayo: I won't take it lightly with you if you don't apologise to me, you know in your heart that you offended me.

The argument went on and on...

This all started as a joke between this wonderful couple until they got to the heat point.
Not denying the fact that MISUNDERSTANDING IS INEVITABLE IN A MARRIAGE; there is a time for romance and laughter, a time for cuddling and petting equally there is a time for disagreement.

Motunrayo rightly knew that hell will break loose if a couple disagree and none of them is ready to bend or let go.
Motunrayo made a decision never to let sleeping dog lie on this day because she felt cheated. she threatened her husband that she will revenge in future with the same attitude.

In the heat of the argument, Motunrayo kept wondering...but my husband has never been stubborn like this??? so what is wrong?
She braced up herself...."I won't let go until he apologise to me"

Every couple do experience the heat moment. A moment which is devoid of romance and laughter; a time of misunderstanding and disagreement. It can progress to a point whereby you will begin to reason..."IS THIS THE MAN/WOMAN I FELL IN LOVE WITH" WHAT BROUGHT ABOUT THE CHANGE IN HIS/HER BEHAVIOUR? So many questions will keep flushing through your mind.

Dear couples, this is not a time to form a new opinion about your spouse personality neither is it a time to wrap up the marriage or courtship (as long as you are sure God led you into it.). This is also not a time to make negative resolutions for a revenge on your spouse.
This is the time to BEND. Someone has to bend.
This is the time to CLEAVE. You will suddenly realize how much you love each other even while you are feeling hurt. For instance, your appetite might just disappear, lying on the bed, backing each other and facing the wall whereas you are wishing your spouse can just talk to you...laughs

This is not a time to conduct adult naming ceremony for each other. Listen to this couple...

"You are an animal, idiot, bitch, product of a wretched family,I even wonder what push me into marriage with you in the first place. My family sponsored your university education and made you what you are today, misfortune creature! I never knew you are a loquacious and disgusting and disgruntled element....imagine a man calling his wife all these names. Hmmm

In reaction his wife said...

"Olori buruku, olosi, O oni ri batise, o ni ri ona gbegba, alaini tiju, ko de ni daa fun e....."

The woman cursed her husband in her yoruba native language(Nigeria) which means he is shameless, misfortuned, poverty-striken and that he will not
prosper in life.

This couple later settle their differences and continue living as husband and wife few weeks after the fight.
I began to wonder, what about all those bad names and all those curses they showered on each other? Hmmm

A married woman shared how she shockingly discovered she has turned out to be exactly all the bad names her husband had ever called her in their heat moments. Especially "bitch" She said she became so wrathful and daring.

I AM YOUR SPOUSE DON'T CALL ME BAD NAMES

Motunrayo was very sad and full of thought. The following day, while on her way to the office; a thought flushed through her mind. She remembered her husband always tell her "YOU ARE MY PROVERB 31 WOMAN"

Motunrayo was extremely filled with joy and gradually her anger cleared off. She picked her Bible and opened to Proverb 31. She patiently read all the verses over again but this time she paused and meditated on verses 12 and 26.

"She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She openeth her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness"

Motunrayo: Wow, I will do Emmanuel good and not evil...I will open my mouth with wisdom...hmmm so soothing. Even though he made me unhappy yesterday, I am proud of him and exactly what he called me I will always try to be. "PROVERB 31 WOMAN''

Emmanuel later apologised and their love life continues. They both learnt some lessons and agreed on a new stand

"Disagreement is inevitable in marriage therefore, no matter how we argue, disagree, yell, scream and shout at each other; there is no signing out, there is not going to be a separation, no divorce and no break up.

WORD BUILDS! WORD DESTROY!

Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him. Proverbs 29:20

SCRIPTURES: Ephesians 4:29, Proverbs 16:24, 21:23,Matthew 12:36, 7:12 e.t.c. Read your Scriptures.
PRAYERS TO KNOW GOD’S WILL CONCERNING ANY ISSUE

You can use these prayer points to determine the following: 
1) Whether a particular thing is God’s choice for you. 
2) To discover secret thing is God’s choice for you 
3) To receive revelation and knowledge on any issue. 
4) To know the mind of God concerning a particular issue. 

NOTE: The issue that you are placing before God must be scriptural.

Confessions: Dan 2:22, Ephesians 1:1, Psalm 25:14, Deut. 29:29.

PRAYER POINTS:
Thank God for the revelation power of the Holy Spirit.

O God to whom no secret is hidden, make know unto me whatever…..(mention the name of the thing).

O Lord, remove from me any persistent buried grudges, half acknowledged enmity against anyone and every other thing that can block my spiritual vision.

Let every idol present consciously and unconsciously in my heart concerning this issue be melted away by the fire of the Holy Spirit.

O Lord, give unto me the spirit of revelation and wisdom in the knowledge of you.

O Lord, remove spirit cataract from my eyes.

O Lord, forgive me for every fake motive or thought that has ever formed in my heart since the day I was born until today.

O Lord, forgive me every lie that I have ever told against any person, system, or organization.

O Lord, open up my spiritual understanding.

O Lord, teach me deep and secret things.

O Lord, reveal to me every secret behind the particular issue whether beneficial or not.

I refuse to fall under the manipulation of spirits of confusion in the name of Jesus.

O Lord, teach me to know that which is worth knowing, and love that which is worth loving, and to dislike whatsoever is not pleasing to Your eyes.

I refuse to make foundational mistakes in my decision making in the name of Jesus.

Father Lord, guide and direct me in knowing Your mind on this particular issue.

I stand against all satanic attachments that may seek to confuse my decision in the name of Jesus.

If….(mention the name of the thing) is not for me, O Lord, re-direct my steps.

I bind the activities of ….(pick from the list below) in my life in the name of Jesus.
1) lust
ii) ungodly infatuation
iii) ungodly family pressure
iv)demonic manipulation in dreams & visions
v) attachment from/to the wrong choice
vi) confusing revelations
vii) spiritual blindness and deafness
viii) unprofitable advise
ix) ungodly impatience

Lord, make your way plain before my face.

O God, You who reveals secret things, make known unto me Your choice for me in this issue.

Holy Spirit, open my eyes and help me to make the right decision in the name of Jesus.

Bless God for answers to prayers.
Prayer to Find a Companion

"Almighty God, hear this prayer."

Almighty God, hear this relationship prayer. As You are first in my heavenly heart and mind and spirit, so do I desire a companion for my earthly heart and mind and being. Guide me to the partner You know is perfect for me. Help me walk in faith until that time of our first meeting.

Show me how I can become a partner worthy of love. Then guide me through every stage of our relationship, so that, as we move ever closer to You, we grow closer to each other in Love, in Joy, and in Faith.

Thank You God, for hearing my prayer.

Amen!
THOUGHTS

1. If he/she doesn't care about your soul and relationship with God; he/she is not your SOUL MATE

2. A good relationship draws you closer to God not apart from Him

3. Ladies, we are not electronics so don't present yourself as one. If you present yourself as an electronics you have opened up yourself to be TESTED BEFORE BUYING, who knows who exactly will end up buying you.

4. If he... asks me or you my dear friends for sex before marriage definitely HE IS NOT BORN AGAIN.

5. If she keeps begging you for sex before marriage or even calls you impotent at your refusal please DON'T MARRY HER. Lol


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Togetherness: Making It Work

If you're struggling with the challenges of togetherness, here's help.by Mitch Temple

If you find yourself struggling with the challenges of togetherness, here are some simple suggestions.

Remember who brought you together. God has united the two of you for a reason. It's no accident. He calls you to become one (Genesis 2:24), to honor one another (Ephesians 5:22-33), to love one another (I Corinthians 13), and to remain together until death separates you (Matthew 19:9).
Change the way you think. You're still an individual. But God has called you to leave your father and mother and unite with your spouse. That means making changes in your thinking (you belong to someone else now) as well as your behavior (you don't act like a single person anymore). Changing the way you think can change the way you feel. Start thinking like a married person, and you'll probably begin to feel like one.
Educate yourself about God's desire for unity in your marriage. Read Bible passages that emphasize the importance of oneness and unity (John 17; 1 Corinthians 7). Personalize them by inserting your name and the name of your spouse. Pray that God will show you any attitudes and actions that stand in the way of oneness. Stop focusing on your mate's mistakes, and start working on unity by changing yourself.
Learn from others. Ask couples you know who have strong marriages how they moved from independence to interdependence. What mindsets and habits did they adopt that worked for them?

If you asked that of Bill and Ruth, here's what they might tell you.

Bill was independent. So was Ruth. For the first three years of their marriage things were so rocky that both felt they'd made a mistake in getting married. They developed separate interests and friendships, spent little time with each other, grew apart, and even considered divorce. But because of their church background, they felt they had to stay together.

Things changed on their third anniversary. They made a commitment to each other: No matter what, they would learn how to connect and develop intimacy. They began studying the Bible and praying together, and attended every marriage conference they could find. They made spending time together a hobby; where you saw one, you'd see the other. They took up golf and skiing. For the next 20 years they would have at least one date a week.

Recently Bill and Ruth went to another marriage retreat — where they were voted Most Dedicated Couple. Their switch from aloneness to togetherness hadn't just happened. They'd intentionally drawn closer and stuck with that commitment.

They'd probably tell you that intentional intimacy is an investment that always pays off — and they'd be right.
GOD IS A FASHION DESIGNER! DON'T SOW FIG LEAVES FOR YOURSELF

I was born naked
No pants, no bra, nothing on, just naked
You were born naked too
Adam and Eve were made naked
Everyone of us was born with no cloth on

But have you ever wondered why God made Adam and Eve naked, left them naked walking the garden naked and fellowship with them uncovered?
God is an all-sufficient God and He created everything yet He didn't cloth or cover the nakedness of this first couple
God visits this couple regularly and sees their nakedness daily
They were both naked before Him all the time.

They were both without shame
They enjoyed God's presence and hid nothing from Him
God was their friend and their nakedness was nothing to Him

Nakedness indicates deep closeness, intimacy and openness with God
He sees all of us inside out.
Nakedness stands for the affection, a relationship in which you can look God right into His eye balls and you are plain and free with Him
It involves hiding nothing from Him, giving and laying down all of ourselves to Him.

Satan stepped! Sin got the couple!
Mr Adam and Mrs. Eve discovered they were naked
Shame sets in and they became too afraid to face God.
But they were naked before this discovery, they should have known God had seen their nakedness they were trying to cover

Before sin got them; they roamed around the garden in full nakedness
They fellow-shipped with God but after sin got them they SOWED FIG LEAVES TOGETHER TO COVER THEIR SHAME FROM GOD.
The fellowship was broken
They hide from God's presence
They couldn't look into His face any more yet God was looking for them

How do you feel after your boyfriend/fiance have sex with you?
How do you feel on getting to church the following morning for worship?
Could you look God in the eyes after that your last abortion?
You masturbate, freshen up and cry" God understands I can't help it"?
How do you feel after you raped that lady?
What about doing sex with your female friend?
How about that sex with your male friends?
Those little children you are sexually abusing?
After all those immorality, those pornmovies? how do you feel?
Could you approach God like before? NO!

That was the guilt and shame Adam and Eve experienced
You have guilt and you are ashamed

Stop letting this quilt and shame keep you totally off from God
It is time to walk NAKED WITHOUT SHAME AGAIN
Come naked as you are

STOP SOWING FIG LEAVES to cover that shame/sins and guilt.

I was never born a saint
I remembered those old path I tread
How the devil tried to keep me off
but walking BACK NAKED TO JESUS
He CLOTHED ME because He clothed Adam and Eve.

Your FIG LEAVES are those excuses you make up to cover your weaknesses
FIG LEAVES are worn around us when we try to justify our sins and pretend nothing is wrong
Don't try to cover it
You are still naked
Your nakedness is the REAL YOU all eyes cannot see
Don't keep covering it up
God wants you to come JUST AS NAKED AS YOU HAVE FOUND YOURSELF
Come with that shame and guilt
God is thrilling for you.
He wants to freshen you up and clothe you.

Now It is time to walk nakedly just as you have found yourself BACK TO JESUS
Knowing His voice. Part 3

Hear ye deaf and look ye blind, that ye may see.
Who is BLIND, but my servant or DEAF as my messenger that I sent? Who is blind as he that is perfect, and blind as the Lord’s servant?

SEEING many things, but thou OBSERVE NOT, opening the ears but he HEAREST NOT. Isaiah 42:18-19

Most times when singles are counseled to pray and know the will of God concerning their choice of marital partner, the leaders already supposed these singles should have developed a communication link with the Lord. The feedback most ministers get from these singles is always disappointing.

Why is this so? My observation is that,

“if you do not develop an effective communication link with the Lord before the need to seek Him for direction arise; it will be totally frustrating and tiring to wait and hear Him in your desperate moments”.

There are many medium through which God speaks to His children and as many who wait to hear Him for direction for their lives.

MEDIUM OF COMMUNICATION

1. Vision and Dreams
This is one of the several ways God communicate with us. Some people do complain that they hardly have dreams and do not see visions, some forget their dreams, while some do not even understand their dreams, others discard their dreams and most mis-interpret their dreams. All of these issues require PRAYERS.

God can reveal the secrets about your life to you through dreams to give you the clear picture of what lies ahead of your destiny. Even in the choice of a marital partner He can tell you His will or hidden secrets about your future family.

I remembered very clearly a particular dream I had when God was revealing His calling for my life. It was a very clear revelation. I saw teens and Youths in a classroom where I was teaching them about SEXUAL PURITY. The Holy Spirit descended into the classroom in a wave eyes couldn't see and everybody were broken and repented of their immorality. With tears on their faces they were worshipping and consecrating their lives to Christ.

How could I wake up and do nothing for my generation. That was the background for this ministry.

How is your dream life? Do you have dreams?
Do you forget?
Can't just make any sense out of it all?
You discard dreams; you don't take them serious?

Whatever is the case with your dream life,
*Start praying before sleeping EVERY NIGHTS,
*STUDY THE BIBLE; it is better to sleep off while meditating.
*When you wake up in the morning be patient and reflect on the night to refresh your memory may be you had a particular dream.
*Pray about any dream you have, you can reject, enforce or pick God's instructions from them.
*Search the SCRIPTURE before taking any step about it. Your dream mustn't contradict the word of God.

NOTE:
a. Do not “totally rely on your night dreams WITHOUT RELATING IT WITH GOD'S WORD. Read. Ecclesiastes.5:3
b. Careful, be patient and cautious before acting on your dreams. Satan can manipulate dreams too. 2. Corinthians. 2:11
c. Do not discard all your dreams out rightly. Don't say "dreams are silly"
d. Pray for the gift of interpretation of dreams

There are many Biblical examples whereby God spoke to people through dreams.
Joseph discovered his destiny through a dream. Genesis 37:5-11
Mary and Joseph. Matthew. 1:20
The wise men. Matthew. 2:12
Jacob. Genesis.28:10-22
King Pharaoh. Genesis. 41:1-8
King Nebuchadnezzar. Daniel. 4:18. and many others.

It is the glory of God to conceal a matter or a thing but the honor of kings to search out a matter.
Proverbs.25:2

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KNOWING GOD'S VOICE. PART4

It is the glory of God to conceal a matter or a thing but the honor of kings to search out a matter.
Proverbs.25:2

INTERPRETATION AND MISINTERPRETATION OF DREAMS

Like we discussed yesterday, God can speak to you through your dreams or visions. But I want to tell you to please rely on His spirit to interpret dreams to you, patiently search and meditate on the Scripture for further instructions and if you are still confused you can consult your pastor to guide you.

Some people are spiritually blessed with the gift of interpretation of dreams they can cut deep into just any dream and interpret it for you but if you do not have this gift the Holy Spirit will still reveal things to you if you patiently wait on Him.

Let me share this story with you.

Way back in the University a friend of mine started a relationship with a brother who was a banker. She never prayed about it when he proposed but when the relationship started giving her headaches she waited on the Lord for direction and had a dream

She narrated the dream to me... how she saw this brother standing before her in a room and was smiling at her but all of a sudden his face changed and she saw a monster( scaring nameless thing) but every other parts of his body wasn't changed. It was so terrifying!

We discussed this dream and concluded something was ungodly about the brother so she paid him a visit in his family house. Guess what she saw?

Right in his house was a big shrine where they worship Ogun the god of thunder. The shrine was fresh with early morning palm oil and all sort of horrible items. She couldn't wait for any other explanation. She quit the relationship immediately.
That dream was properly interpreted by our little knowledge that something wasn't godly about the brother.

Only the mercy of God saved my friend from unequal yoke by revealing this secret through dreams, who knows what could have happened; may be my friend would be tying a red wrapper by now to worship an idol with the brother.

Don't ever joke with your relationship with Christ. It will safe guard your destiny. Believe me.

God would tell you whether to embark on a journey or not, what business to do and what investment not to do e.t.c

MIS-INTERPRETATION OF DREAMS
Be careful with dreams

I mis-interpreted a dream then while waiting on God for my marital partner and it almost cost me my self-respect. I saw a friend in my dream and we were not relating well, he would see me and take to his heels or just keep a distance away from me. I would follow him and see another sister take over the journey and few other ones like that. Do you know the funny thing I did? I started praying against powers and principalities waging war against my marital destiny. lol. Binding all forces keeping the brother away from me and I was hoping against hope he would come someday and propose marriage. lol.

I started serious prayers thinking there was a problem with me that require urgent deliverance. But NO! . God was simply telling me in that dream that the brother wasn't made for me but for another sister. He was engaged by the time I told him my dreams. Which was another stupid thing any single sister should never do. Don't ever be the first to share revelations with brothers. I was made perfect! a beauty to behold! God had prepared my personal divine husband for me but not the dream brother and when my husband finally came I couldn't but praise God.

Some sisters will wait till eternity for brothers who are not made for them likewise brothers too. Don't wait and waste.

Please learn from other people's past mistake and act right.

How is your dream life? Do you have dreams?
Do you forget?
Can't just make any sense out of it all?
You discard dreams; you don't take them serious?

Whatever is the case with your dream life,
*Start praying before sleeping EVERY NIGHTS,
*STUDY THE BIBLE; it is better to sleep off while meditating.
*When you wake up in the morning be patient and reflect on the night to refresh your memory may be you had a particular dream.
*Be careful of whom you share your dreams with, remember Joseph.

Get confirmation through other means (we will discuss them) before you act on your dreams.

Prayer: Father I rebuke every manipulation of the devil in my dream life and I decree from today a season of revelational dreams in Jesus name.

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2. INNER CONVICTION/PEACE.

"I met him during my National Youth Service. He is born again and a minister of God in a very popular church in Lagos. He is such an handsome, generous and a kind man. We love each other dearly, even all our friends saw us as a perfect match for each other.
He proposed marriage to me and my joy knew no limit. 
After some Months of prayers, I still couldn't agree to his proposal; I was reluctant and sceptical yet he was the exact type of man I hoped for, I PERCEIVED something in my spirit but I couldn't place it, I had a KNOWING he wasn't made for me"

God saved you dear sister.

READ:2 Kings.4:8-9. The great woman in Shunem said something about Elisha.

"And she said unto her husband, I PERCEIVE that this man is a holy man of God, which passeth by us continually"

God speaks to us through inner conviction and peace of mind. You can just feel convinced in your heart to take a step, to do or not to do something, most times it could be the Lord, leading you especially when you have peace of mind about the matter. If you lack peace of mind about a decision you are about taking watch out...when you are so restless WAIT, when you have peace concerning a matter still PRAY.

STUDY: Acts.27:1-22. See what Apostle Paul said in VERSE 10.
"And said unto them, sirs I PERCEIVE that this voyage will be with hurt & damage, not only of the landing of the ship but also our lives".

PRAYER: Father help me to be sensitive to you when you give me a prompt in my spirit.
Knowing God's Voice. Part 6

4. God speaks through CIRCUMSTANCES, NATURE and STILL SMALL VOICE.

The Lord can speak to us through objects e.g animals, just anything...and HIS STILL SMALL VOICE.

"Go to the ANT, thou sluggard; consider her ways and be wise"Proverbs. 6:6

One day while I was doing my laundry, I suddenly noticed a set of chicken running towards the mother hen. I was struck by the sight. Like a force propelled me to, I focused closely on them.
For a quick moment I reasoned within me; what on earth is giving these chickens a chase into the wings of the mother hen?
Not long afterward I looked up and saw a big hawk parading the face of the beautiful sky seeking for a prey.

I was baffled and ignorantly thought nothing is so special about the incident but I couldn't concentrate any more on my chores.

The Holy spirit spoke to me.
The mother hen signifies God.
The chicken typifies God's people.
The hawk stands for the Devil/enemies/ problems and hurdles of life.

Ordinarily, chicken do go home to roost under the wings of the mother hen for warmth equally they run into her wings for safety away from the hawk. Any chick that is left uncovered becomes a prey, captured and devoured by the hawk.

The Holy Spirit through the still small voice went further and said "Some people only come running to me ONLY when they have problems, faced with battles; some run away from me(backslide): some run after other gods when challenges come.
There are some who are always coming home to roost(roost here means fellowship, love & communion)
Psalm. 91:1 and 4. He that dwell in the secret place of the Most High...
He shall cover thee with His feathers,and under His wings shalt thou trust...

I was blessed and happy by this revelation and its lesson.

God usually speaks to us through circumstances or animals and still small voice like my experience I just shared with you.
Always be sensitive and calm in your spirit to hear Him.

read: 1 Kings 19:11-13

STUDY: Jonah. 4:1-11 and see his experience too
Knowing His voice. Part 7

THIRD PARTY

“For we know in part, and we prophesy in part” 1.Corinthians.13:9

4. God can also speak to us using third party e.g pastors, prophets, friends or even a total stranger. God can reveal your matter to them or confirm His word you already received through them.

Read: 2 Kings 4:18-27.
The Shunammite woman ran to prophet Elisha concerning the sudden death of her son and Elisha said “ And when she came to the man of God to the hill, she caught him by the feet : but Gehazi came near to thrust her away, And the man of God said, Let her alone; for her soul is vexed within her: AND THE LORD HATH HID IT FROM ME, AND HATH TOLD ME NOT”

No man is all sufficient and knows it all hence God knows when to speak to us directly and when to use someone for us. God can also use you for other people as a channel of transmitting His message.

Examples from the Scriptures
Elisha to the Shunammite woman in 2Kings 4.
Jonah to the city of Nineveh in the book of Jonah
Samuel to Saul when he disobeyed God in 1.Samuel 13:11-14
Isaiah to Hezekiah when the later was at the point of death in 2 Kings 20:1-21
Nathan to David after he plotted the death of Uriah e.t.c.

WARNING:
Let a Bible teaching and a holy living pastor watch over your matter and be prayerful about it.
The pastors and God’s prophet can speak the mind of God to us but you don’t go all your life patronizing one prophet to the other. Watch out! False prophets are everywhere. Mathew. 7:15 and 2 Peter 2:13
Be wise about whatever any prophet tells you and evaluate it with the word of God.
Go back to the Lord for confirmation. Why?

PLEASE STUDY: 1.Kings. 13:1-24. The story is about a particular prophet whom God sent on an errand…God instructed him not to eat nor drink…unfortunately another old prophet told him a contrary message AND HE OBEYED THE VOICE OF THE PROPHET. This passage will bless your life.
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